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The Thing About Personal Space

November 9, 2007
Apparently, my post about Code Pink abusing Condoleezza Rice’s personal space did not digest well with some people. Too bad, so sad. There is a fundamental humanist point in needing and wanting personal space. A point when built upon would assure no atrocities happening in this world, no need for forced courtesies because there will be no rudeness, no need for fences because there will be no trespassers, no need for submission because there will be no dominance. Human nature is not an excuse.

All people need personal space, a feeling of personal safety, including unfavorable people, until that is recogonised and practiced, power and the abuse of power will simply exchange hands and continue on its destructive course. One post that referenced my audacious desire to expect Code Pink to behave in a civil manner attempted to use the colour/heritage of the Code Pink offender as a defense. It is believed that the Code Pinker with fake blood on her hands who decided to mimic oppression tactics and invade Condoleezza Rice’s personal space, her sense of personal safety is of Arabic heritage. Ahh, I see. That makes it all better, justifiable. Forget the fact that Condoleezza Rice is a woman of colour, and not just any colour but American black, a member of a group of people who have had to live with double, triple, quadruple consciousness here in America since the day the first slave ship left from wherever and landed on American soil. Forget the fact that people must find reason to believe that she is a lesbian or is fucking Bush. Forget the misogyny in those assertions; let’s just concentrate on the sympathy and empathy due to the offending Code Pinker. Let’s now make it personal for her and not personal for Rice. Let’s use the Arabic woman’s personal to become the collective but not use the collective that makes it personal when it comes to Rice.

Incidentally, I find it remarkable that it is a woman, a woman of colour nonetheless the Code Pinkers targeted. What is that saying? Why aren’t the real authors, creators, contributors, evil doers such as George Bush and Dick Cheney suffering a violation of personal space, suffering the physically invading presence of Code Pinkers? Why are the two rich white boys with no heritage baggage given a free pass? Yes, Condoleezza Rice sold out. She sure and the hell did. Condoleezza Rice decided her personal gain, her personal status is/was more important than unknown people being murdered on the other side of the world. This is an assertion I believe and willing to continue to believe unless when all the chips have fallen proof comes out that Condoleezza Rice was brainwashed, held against her will and forced to do and say the things she has said, including forced to shop for shoes while New Orleans was drowning. In addition, of course, if that is not proven, she as well as Bush and Cheney and the others should suffer the consequences that are bestowed on war criminals. But here is the thing, the rub, what kind of world forces Rice to contemplate selling out, much less, actually selling out? Oh, but as the Victorian solicitors would interject, that is out of the record; wandering from the point. The Truth is, if Rice did not play the role, someone else would have been found to do so. That is why the source must be the target!

Nevertheless, I must, must, point out that it is Rice, the woman, a woman, who the Code Pinkers are comfortable attacking. Sure excuses will be made such as, Code Pink have attacked men in the past and that Bush and Cheney are heavily guarded, they do not speak at places where Code Pink can infiltrate, blah blah blah. But, if Code Pink is supposedly so radical, so grass rootish then why aren’t they finding ways, making ways, to get to the real source, the legitimate source. Oh but my friends from Baruch College will wag their fingers and tell me that I need to take a basic 101 class in grass root tactics, thus I will learn that the whole structure is knocked down by attacking extremities first. Yes, the old bit-by-bit gnawing away the flesh trick. The radical termites. It does look good on paper however.

Like the good little whiner I am, I do have a solution and it does involve the sanctity of personal space. I am afraid though that my ideas are far too radical, too subversive, too immensely unfathomable that even the most determine will resist. Are you ready?


If people treated others with dignity, then malice will be easy to identify hence aiding in our ability to expose, and subsequently cut away, ensuring a long and healthy life of the heart. Duh!

  1. Attorneymom permalink
    November 9, 2007 8:14 pm

    Good post, Kitty.

    I have the same problem with the Enough Is Enough Campaign. It is very easy to target Deborah Lee, a black woman. They had no problem with starting (and continuing) the protest outside her home. Why not go after Bob Johnson or Reginald Hudlin?? Why not focus on Viacom CEO’s home??? Isn’t he Debrah Lee’s boss??

    Let’s face it. It is a man’s world. We know that men run this country and entertanment corporations. They may give Black women positions, but it is without the power necessary to effect change.

  2. Heart permalink
    November 9, 2007 8:44 pm

    Yeah, love it. This is really good, Kitty, as was your original post, which I totally agreed with.


  3. Kitty Glendower permalink
    November 9, 2007 10:35 pm

    It is so great when a man condescends and tells a woman what she should and should not be engaging in, thinking, feeling. I am now affirmed.

  4. Pippa permalink
    November 9, 2007 10:54 pm

    Time to go comments womyn only? Men really can’t help it, can they? Asshattery just comes naturally, even when they are clearly very articulate, intelligent, left-leaning, thinking men. Brotherkomrade really couldn’t just listen to your point and think about it. I think it’s about the testosterone, I really do. and it makes me sad because I can never call him brother or comrade as long as he treats your (and my) concerns so lightly and with veiled scorn.

  5. Verging Writer permalink
    November 10, 2007 2:34 am

    Very thoughtful post, Kitty. Personal space ought always to be respected – don’t we all expect the same in return?

  6. Unsane permalink
    November 10, 2007 5:26 am

    yeah it is a bit too easy for “progressives” to attack women, I think.

  7. Kitty Glendower permalink
    November 11, 2007 12:09 am

    Yes, Attorneymom, I think maybe Enough is Enough should take their protest to BET headquarters. Maybe they will get more attention from the MSM as well.

    Thanks, Heart, Pippa, and Verging Writer, it feels good to be heard every now and again.

    Yes, Unsane, all of this ties in with all of the thoughts racing in my head concerning what has been recently discussed over at Professor Zero’s. There is something there, the anti-anti thing, or the anti-anti-anti- makes a pro thing. Its heavy for sure.

  8. Lola Gets permalink
    November 15, 2007 6:38 pm

    While I dont particularly care for Rice, I do think that she handled herself very well under the circumstances! I know that in other cultures, they dont have suce large needs for personal space as we in the West (well, the US) do. I can honestly say that if I felt my space threatened like Rices’ was, I probably would have reacted very badly.

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