The Privileged Male-Mother
January 21, 2008
I’ve seen men try to take over mothering with a newborn/toddler/child when there is a female-mother available and willing and wanting to mother said newborn. However, it is not a full scale take over, it is just another opportunity to criticise the female-mother. This is accomplished by him intervening and showing her how he would do it, because everyone knows his way has to be the most efficient and logical method since men are the quintessential models of efficiency and logic. “You are not doing that right! Get out of the way and let me do it.” Who does not know that efficiency and logic is what all newborns and children need? He asserts that he knows what type of milk is best, what diapers are best, what swaddle methods are best, what the exact dosage of medicine is needed and what the doctor implied even though she/he did not say. He soaks in all the compliments from on-lookers, “Look at that fine male-mother, oh, how I wish my Frank could/would mother like that.” He becomes the omniscient mother. Until of course, a mother is needed for mothering. Then he is nowhere to be found.