Finding A Doctor
Then there is the little D.O. thing. Okay, okay, I know that may be snobbery on my part, but even so, can I get a damn M.D. for my money. Just like the time I was pissed because I jumped through all kinds of hoops to get an endocrinology consult to learn that my first visit was scheduled for a nurse practitioner. Yes I know, someone aunt’s in-law’s cousin sees a nurse practitioner regularly and thinks the world of him/her, but I feel that I should at least be seen by a specialist the first time around if the reason I am seeking him/her out is because of a concern that requires a specialist. “Oh I’m too important and busy to trifle with your little complaints, go through my nurse practitioner and maybe, just maybe, if you exhibit obvious signs of dying that point in the direction of my specialty then I could, perhaps, find a moment in my over inflated not amounting to much other than bravado posturing schedule to fart in your room. Just a whiff has been known to cure the most ardent lepers.” Asshole. Charles Bovary. I feel your pain poor Hippolyte!
I could almost forget the medical corporation plastered on the window and overlook the D.O. if the chemistry between us had been good or, if not good, at least respectful. Okay. But no that was absolutely too much to ask. This bastard, a good ten to fourteen years younger than me had the nerve to talk down to me, cut me off in mid-sentence and dismiss what I know about my damn body. Not to mention how bad he wanted to look into my vagina. Good god, I am not my vagina. I go there complaining about a chest cold, a persistent cough and an over all physical malaise (this all about a year ago, you see how long I have been sulking) and all he can think of is my femaleness. “Oh we must schedule a pelvic exam, it is very important for you to have a pap smear, do you have any known STD’s, how many pregnancies, abortions, deliveries, on and on and on and on.” My chest! Can we get back to my chest! There is irony in that complaint because I am sure if I was twenty years younger and had major voluptuous breastesess he would be diligently focused on my chest without redirection. Speaking of breast, even though I am at the age that I qualify for a yearly mammogram I cannot self refer. No, I have to call my daddy-PCM and beg him to give me the green light so I can get a mammogram. Incidentally, I was told today that I could see an OB/GYN (provided that they are on the list) without a referral from daddy-PCM. WTF? Maybe it was not my femaleness that he was after but the dollars, because, technically I could go somewhere to have my pap/pelvic done without his permission which would take money out of his pocket. But for a mammogram, I have to allow him to feel me up first and be at his mercy for a referral.
Oh but it is so easy to find a doctor, just look at the list of providers and pick one. Okay but here is a little thing that they leave out when they are promoting the ease of choosing a physician. Yes of course it is left out. How many times have I clicked on a doctor’s name to learn that he/she is no longer accepting new patients? I saw one today that said “will only be treating current patients with no openings ever again.” After being disappointed one time after another, I finally selected a physician. This only means that I found a first name that is certain to be female, who has a M.D., is older than thirty, and is open for new patients, thus the next step.
The next step according to patient’s responsibilities is to interview the doctor.
You can also go with no problem at all — make an appointment to just chat with the doctor to get a feel whether you like him or her. Be aware, though, that as with dating, first impressions might be a bit rosy. “‘Meet the doctor’ visits are nice, but everybody’s on their best behavior, and there’s no stress,” says Dr. Michael Victoroff, another patient advocate.
Let us say the chemistry is not right with the doctor during the “interview.”
This is perhaps the most important. It’s perfectly OK to reject doctors simply because there’s something about them that makes you feel a bit ill at ease. “I would suggest that patients actually like their provider,”says Dr. Michael Woods, a surgeon who founded a group called Civility Mutual to help improve communication between patients and health care providers. “Patients should, after their first visit, have a sense of trust.”