Can You Identify With This?
2. It’s Monday morning, only a few minutes before it is time to leave out the door. A child, okay your child, in a panicking voice cries about an overdue library book. A book that if he or she does not bring back that day, the librarian has promised something severe, drastic, like holding his or her report card or not letting them be promoted to the next grade. Within sixty seconds there is panic, frustration (why didn’t you mention this library book over the weekend), short fuses, exaggerated rationalisation by one (or both around here) of the parents (“the librarian will understand if you do not bring it in until tomorrow”) while everyone is searching aimlessly. It is not necessarily a library book, it can be a lost pair of shoes, an incomplete project, book report, or something that was promised for the class but the parent was not told about it. I find this is not a good time to poke fun at the child, for instance, it is not good to tell her to say “Look ____________ (last name without any of the polite introductions like Miss, Ms. Mrs. Mr. Mister) I don’t need your lip, you will get your damn book tomorrow.” That joke does not go over to well with the panicking child. Nevertheless, it is often very fun for the parents.
3. Have you ever cared for an infant and/or toddler or other small child who seems to become clingy/needy and at times even sick with high fever and all the other scary symptoms when you have to finish a paper or study? Someone today told me about her situation and I remembered those days, those nights before a paper was due. Sigh. A combination of procrastination, regret for procrastinating, giving off rejection vibes to the child, lack of patience with the child, panic, being overwhelmed, self-sabotaging, fear of failure, fear of success,— and the mechanics of every day life. And of course there is that whole, I cannot do it until everything else is done, such as scrubbing the soap scum off the shower doors. Suddenly it becomes priority over the studying and for some unknown reason nothing can be thought about until those doors are cleaned.