I really want to know where some people’s integrity goes when they decide to lie. What makes lying so fucking seductive that some people will do it for no foreseeable reason other than to lie? I don’t get it! I understand lying when trying to get out of trouble (not that I condone the act or have never done just that) but, I do not understand lying just because you can.
A while back, there was a woman who lied on a forum (forum 1). Margie had written a post about something and this lying woman went to the forum and claimed that Margie had written the post about her, as in, her specifically, as in no one else but her. Although Margie (as far as I know) has never interacted with the woman or read the woman on the board, for some reason this woman felt it was okay to lie and say our blog had a post specifically written about her. Even after several people told her that she was wrong, she continued the lie. She carried the lie over and nursed the lie. She used that lie to justify little attacks, to feign victim status whenever she found an opportunity to do so. And naturally, anyone who didn’t like me personally, would side with her for no other reason, even if siding required them to take an opposing position than what they would have normally taken. The whole, “The enemy of my enemy is my friend, even if I have to become a hypocritical pretzel.” (<—-, poor thing.) I just wish the “enemy” (me) actually knew she was an enemy, then perhaps there could be some fun made out of it. Nevertheless, some people just fabricate enemies, for reasons unknown. It is not as if we as women don’t have enough enemies already, you know.
Then today, I find out that Margie is being excluded from a blog because I supposedly attacked the blog author on a forum (forum 2). I had never interacted with the alleged victim, so I went to investigate. Sure enough, I had not attacked the woman; I had not even addressed or alluded to her. Apparently, it is perfectly acceptable to immediately jump from, “Were you talking about me?” to “She was talking about me.” Not to mention the divisive attempt at trying to pit Margie and I against each other (incidentally, it was attempted this past week in comments here as well). The demands seems to go like this, “If you want to hang out with me, you will reprimand her.” Women who truly love other women, will not succumb to the pitting against each other technique.
It is not that difficult. I read shit that cut me to the bone all the fucking time. ALL THE FUCKING TIME! I cannot recall when I have ever said to myself, “Kitty, she is talking about you, personally. She is attacking you, specifically.” NEVER. (Well, maybe when I was an adolescent.) I have said, “Kitty, I think that may apply to you a little too much and since it makes you uncomfortable, perhaps you should work on that.” But, to try and alleviate that uncomfortable feeling by lying on the person who wrote something uncomfortable and telling others that that person did in fact write about me, is totally unacceptable and dishonest. If I lied and said someone was talking about me (and they were not) it would be nothing more than trying to get that person to shut up, to get them to stop making me feel uncomfortable. To lie on her, would be a passive aggressive way of trying to make it all return to the comfort level I felt before I read what she had written. I don’t take kindly to ungrowth.