The number one crime a woman can commit is to demand that women are put first and foremost. Doing so is an act even some of the most ardent feminists cannot tolerate. If a woman or two or three, persistently advocate that women come first, all old tropes will be trotted out and used against those nasty women-first-women.
All male learned vemon will be flung at those women who dare to put women first. All internalized misogyny will surface. The wagons will circle in an attempt to rid any presence of those horrible women who demand that women be treated as human and not as some second thought, second cause. Those women-first-women will be demonized to the hilt. Beware and forewarn women, if you dare to break the lockstep, you may be next. You are not immune.
Putting women first after being conditioned to place men and everything else first is a hard road to hoe. Emotions run high and wild. Moreover, the most dramatic, and ironically the one often spreading the most poison, will be the woman who benefitted her whole life from being perceived as the good woman. The good woman will not want to lose her position, her status; her no god shall be worshipped before her spot (except the male god that comes before her by default, –she understands this and accepts the position as supreme woman over all women) so she will fight the dirtiest. Demagogues and charlatans envy her skill.
It is time to open your eyes women. You cannot be an all-inclusive woman and be a feminist too. Not in a patriarchy. You may benefit one, but he benefits two or more.