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Disposability And No Denunciation of the Fact That There’s a Male Demand for the Flesh of Girl-Children

November 17, 2009

I have been following the Shaniya Davis story.

The father of the child is white. The mother is black. He has publicly separated himself from any real compassion for the black mother by reiterating that their relationship of conception was no more than a one-night stand. Judging by the stereotypical markers, his oldest child also has a black mother. Supposedly there is a brother as well, but I have not seen him yet. It may be safe to assume he is/was “into” black women. Just an observation.

It takes place in the south. A god-fearing area. A military town. Just last week, in the same town, a man killed a woman and her two children, then himself.

The father had custody of the Shaniya until recently. The story thus far is that the mother wanted to “be a mother” and that decision rested in the father’s hands. Not until the mother had a job for six months and got her own place to live did the father allow the child to stay with the mother. It was only a month ago (Oct 9th) that Shaniya went to live with her mother. A reporter asked the father about another tragedy in his past but he refused to talk about it. I wonder what happened.

Poverty for some time has plagued Shaniya’s mother, Antoinette Davis. The day she reported Shaniya missing, the authorities would not allow her or anyone else back into the trailer they were living in because of sewage leakage. The father (judging by stereotypical markers) appears to be living a little better than the mother (perhaps paycheck to paycheck and/or some kind of familial support system). The maternal grandmother (the black grandmother) has been publicly asserting her daughter’s innocence. I would like to say in loving tones, but unfortunately, it has an air of “Don’t blame me for anything she may have done.” Or I could just be projecting the type of support my mother would express.

Antoinette Davis has been charged with human trafficking and child abuse involving prostitution. In other words, Davis willingly sent her child out to be prostituted. This accusation makes me ponder a few things. Such as how society expects an automatic attachment/bond between mother and child while never demanding or expecting the same bond from a father. It is never asked in exasperated breath, “How could he break the father/daughter bond with his child by raping, selling and/or killing her?” But it is asked and expected of women who give birth. It goes as far back as the outrage directed at discarded eggs vs. the indifference shown toward the sperm dying on a 24-hour bookstore floor.

Evidently, there were men around Davis. She had a boyfriend and she knew the man, Mario Andrette McNeill who was videotaped carrying Shaniya in and out of a Comfort Inn room. Incidentally, Mario Andrette McNeill has been forthcoming in his role regarding the actual kidnapping of Shaniya Davis but is vehemently mute about anything further. This in my opinion means he wants to be completely separated from the actual murderer or it means he thought he could hurry up and cop to the kidnapping charge while hoping to avoid a murder charge if her body was never found. Also, it is rumored that Davis is currently pregnant by an HIV positive felon. What will happen to that baby? Someone needs to be thinking about abortion.

Then there is the issue of depravity. A concept I don’t truly understand, with or without religious connotations. I do recognize it enough to know that it comes up more often when the alleged perpetrators are black. Is it a sign of depravity when a woman who had been possibly mistreated and discarded all of life discards another life? At least in this case it does not look like Antoinette Davis killed Shaniya directly, unlike how it looks in the case of Casey and Caylee Anthony. Was depravity mentioned in the Anthony case? Or is the concept of depravity reserved for particular people (black mothers)? Can depravity be something that happens when human life is not valued but money and material things are? Is depravity an outcome of capitalism? If a society is saturated in consumerism and materialism is used as a maker of worth, then at what point does human life become worthless? Will you murder for a pair of shoes? And then expect to be acquitted by a sympathetic jury who can empathize with your desperation.

What a mess.

The father in this story is getting sympathy. I don’t begrudge that act of kindness. However, I don’t feel that mothers of dead children, especially when the fathers are the murderers, get the same level of public support and sympathy.

What I do know for sure is the concept of disposability. Regardless of who is doing the disposing, the disposed is most likely female.

18 Comments
  1. November 17, 2009 7:23 pm

    Human life became worthless the first time man uttered the words “he’s worth X amount of dollars”. Just as “the time you measure is NOT the measure of our days”, life cannot be quantified by the ole mighty dolla, and when it is, it isn’t life.

    dirt

  2. November 17, 2009 9:12 pm

    Comment from the article:

    MJ
    My heart hurts today for a little girl and a father whom I never met. She’s safe now, and I hope Mr. Lockhart finds peace and comfort knowing God has Shaniya in His arms.

    As for Ms. Davis and Mr. McNeill, well, how soon can we have us a public hanging? I’ll bring the rope!
    11/17/2009 9:22:41 AM

    I wonder if that kind of comment was left for white Casey Anthony? smh

    • November 17, 2009 9:23 pm

      I saw that comment, it was right on top. Now tell me, why does rope comes to mind. I’ve heard people say, give him the chair, etc. But rope?

      From wiki:

      Various methods have been used in the history of the American colonies and the United States but only five methods are currently used. Historically, burning, pressing, breaking on wheel and bludgeoning were used for a small number of executions, while hanging was the most common method. The last person burned to death was a black slave in South Carolina in August 1825.[60] The last person to be hanged in chains was a murderer named John Marshall in West Virginia on April 4, 1913. Although decapitation was a legal method in Utah for the second half of the 19th century, it was never employed.[61]
      Currently lethal injection is the method used or allowed in all of the 36 states which allow the death penalty. Nebraska required electrocution, but in 2008 the state supreme court ruled the method is unconstitutional. In mid 2009 Nebraska officially changed its method of execution to lethal injection.[62][63][64] Other states also allow electrocution, gas chambers, hanging and the firing squad. From 1976 to September 22, 2009 there were 1,175 executions, of which 1,004 were by lethal injection, 155 by electrocution, 11 by gas chamber, 3 by hanging, and 2 by firing squad.[65]

      The method of execution of federal prisoners for offenses under the Violent Crime Control and Law Enforcement Act of 1994 is that of the state in which the conviction took place. If the state has no death penalty, the judge must choose a state with the death penalty for carrying out the execution. For offenses under the 1988 Drug Kingpin Law, the method of executions is lethal injection. Federal Correctional Complex, Terre Haute is currently the home of the only death chamber for federal death penalty recipients in the United States, where they receive lethal injection.

      The use of lethal injection has almost become standard. From June 2000 to July 20, 2006, only 6 out of 387 executions have been by a different method. The last execution by any other method was the use of the electric chair on June 20, 2008 when James Earl Reed was executed in South Carolina. The last use of the gas chamber occurred on March 3, 1999 when Walter LaGrand was executed in Arizona,[66] the last use of hanging was on 25 January 1996 when Delaware hanged Billy Bailey and the firing squad was also last used in 1996 when John Albert Taylor was shot in Utah on January 26.

      Montana, until recently, was one of three states allowing the execution of a death sentence by hanging:

      The punishment of death must be inflicted by administration of a continuous, intravenous injection of a lethal quantity of an ultra-fast-acting barbiturate in combination with a chemical paralytic agent until a coroner or deputy coroner pronounces that the defendant is dead.

      —Montana Code Annotated 46-19-103 (3).[67]

      The remaining two states that allow hanging[68] are New Hampshire, which allows it by decision of the Corrections officials,[69] and in Washington State, at the choice of the defendant.[70]

      Hanging is not used in North Carolina. Yet, it came to the mind of the first commenter.

    • atheistwoman permalink
      November 17, 2009 11:48 pm

      Leave it to NH to still have hanging on the books. That is very typical.

      And if I had a dime for every time I had heard a black woman called depraved (often mistakenly in place of deranged) I would be wealthy. This whole story is a tragedy, from beginning to end. This society does not value human life at all, it destroys it in a heartbeat. And that does have a loooot to do with capitalism, which translates everything into a dollar sign.

      This society does not value female life (except in so much as they are still fuckable or carrying the next generation of white Jesuses) and this country has never at all valued black female life, and I don’t see it doing so anytime in the future either.

  3. November 17, 2009 9:50 pm

    And, of course, no denunciation of the fact that there’s a male demand for the flesh of girl-children, just vilification of the girl’s mother for “letting” it happen.

  4. November 17, 2009 9:53 pm

    Of course the father gets sympathy that mothers rarely (I would say “never” because I’ve NEVER seen it but I don’t claim omnipotence so I can’t be 100% sure) get – it is always “how could SHE…”

    How could she fuck someone like that
    how could she marry someone like that
    how could she date someone like that
    how could she LET him do those things
    how could SHE let HIM hurt her babies…

    and no, no mention of hanging Casey.

    Mothers are the root of all evil, particularly black mothers. Or didn’t you know that even a father can himself be victimized by somebody else’s damn mother in addition to his own?

    It is hard for me to have compassion for someone who would send a girl child off to be sexually mauled and murdered by grown men. But like you, Kitty, I wonder why it is expected that somebody who has been discarded herself should automatically by her “maternal nature” be a beacon of safety and love for someone who is basically the child she once was, her daughter.

    And I feel like this white man disposed of Shaniya just as surely as her mother and kidnapper/rapist(s) did. Used her as some magnanimous reward to bestow (pawn off) on her mother once her mother was behaving in a way he approved of.

    Truthfully I *don’t* understand how anyone could hurt a kid, any kid, including her/his own. I’m not okay with what Shaniya’s mom did, if in fact the charges are true. But yeah, really could do without the any-excuse-is-a-good-one! bullshit of open season on black women and black mothers.

  5. November 17, 2009 9:54 pm

    and what Margaret just said.

  6. November 18, 2009 5:20 pm

    Dirty laundry is coming out about the father. His first wife was killed. Everyone but him was keeping his children (unlike the image he and the media had been portraying).

    Slain child’s dad says he blames himself
    By Gregory Phillips

    The father of 5-year-old Shaniya Davis said Tuesday he partly blames himself for his daughter’s death.

    “I believe every parent would blame themselves,” Bradley Lockhart said, his lower lip trembling. “We all look within ourselves to see what we could have done different.”

    Lockhart said he didn’t know what he could have done differently, but he wishes he had known the extent of a reported Department of Social Services investigation into the home life of Shaniya’s mother, Antoinette Davis.

    “I feel if they would have known, they should have contacted me,” he said.

    Shaniya was staying with her mother when she was reported missing from the Davis home in the Sleepy Hollow Mobile Home Park off Murchison Road on Nov. 10. Her body was found a week later in woods off a rural road south of Sanford.

    Antoinette Davis and a Fayetteville man are charged in her disappearance.

    Antoinette Davis faces charges that include child abuse involving prostitution. Mario Andrette McNeill, 29, is charged with first-degree kidnapping. Police say he was seen carrying Shaniya in a Sanford hotel after she went missing.

    Lockhart said Tuesday he was “appalled and disgusted” at the nature of the charges. But he dismissed reports he allowed Shaniya to stay with her mother while knowing it was an unsafe environment.

    “I choose not to talk about that,” he said. “Most of it’s speculation, though.”

    Shaniya had spent most of the past three or four years living with Lockhart at his home in northern Cumberland County. Lockhart characterized his recent relationship with Antoinette Davis as typical of one between parents in a split family.

    Lockhart is a contractor who often works out of state. He said Shaniya had been staying with her mother since Oct. 9 while he was gone. His sister, Carey Lockhart-Davis, said Shaniya had split her time between her and Antoinette Davis since then.

    Those caring for Lockhart’s older children say he knew Davis’ home was not safe for Shaniya and that he should not have allowed her to stay there.

    Tim Allen has been caring for Lockhart’s 17-year-old daughter, Cheyenne, since July. Cheyenne lives with Allen and his daughters, with whom she attends Pine Forest High School. Allen said Lockhart agreed Oct. 1 to let Shaniya stay with his family at night while Lockhart was gone and for her to spend the days at a day care run by Allen’s mother. A day later, Allen said, Lockhart told him he had changed his mind.

    “He said he knew she wasn’t supposed to be over there, but he wanted to give her biological mother a chance,” Allen said. On Oct. 3, Lockhart left town, Allen said, returning the day Shaniya went missing.

    Cheyenne said she didn’t have much contact with Shaniya’s mother, but Cheyenne never thought she was capable of her alleged involvement in the girl’s disappearance. But she said her father knew of problems in the Davis home.

    “He knew Antoinette wasn’t capable of taking care of Shaniya,” Cheyenne said.

    Lockhart has said that Davis had been holding a steady job and that he wanted her to have a relationship with her daughter. He said twice during Tuesday’s news conference that he didn’t know the entire situation involving Davis and the Department of Social Services.

    Cheyenne is one of three children Lockhart had with his wife of seven years, Vickie Sue Lockhart.

    In 1998, Vickie Sue Lockhart was murdered along with her 19-year-old sister at a home on Graham Road. The two women were bound, gagged and shot with a shotgun in what police said was a robbery.

    Three others also were shot; one, 24-year-old David Epps, also died. Two men were later convicted and sentenced to life in prison.

    Since the murders, Cheyenne and her brothers stayed mostly with their grandparents, Byron and Phyllis Coleman, in the Remington subdivision behind Seventy-First High School.

    “We’ve had a lot of tragedy in our family,” said Byron Coleman, Vickie Sue Lockhart’s father.

    Coleman said he was angry about Shaniya’s death.

    “He knew the situation with this girl,” Coleman said. “He knew the kind of environment.

    “Why take Shaniya back to a woman like that? That’s the stupidest thing I ever heard.”

    The Colemans and Brad Lockhart have been on opposing sides in several lawsuits in recent years, most of which were dismissed. A case filed in 1998 resulted in the Colemans being granted custody of their grandchildren and child support in 2007, according to court files.

    Before Shaniya’s death, Lockhart was paying child support on three children, including Shaniya and two of the children from his marriage.

    “I would have kept Shaniya, but he never asked me,” Phyllis Coleman said. “After all, I kept his (other) three children.”

    On Tuesday afternoon, Lockhart publicly thanked everyone involved – law enforcement agencies and volunteers – in searching for his daughter.

    “They did the best job they can do,” he said. “I thank you so much for not forgetting about Shaniya and bringing her home. It’s not the result I wanted. It’s not the result any father or family would want for their children, but God has a greater calling for all of us.”

    As he stood outside his home, the front porch covered in stuffed animals and silk flowers, Lockhart’s hand shook as he read from a page of notes.

    He begged anyone with knowledge of other endangered children to notify authorities.

    “Report it, and if you’re unable to report it … take it to somebody that can,” he said.

    Neighbor Scott Rollston said a memorial page has been set up on Facebook and a foundation has been established in Shaniya’s name. Donations can be made at the Wachovia Bank on Morganton Road.

    Shaniya’s funeral arrangements will be made through McLaughlin Chapel, the Lockhart family church, Rollston said.

    Lockhart said Shaniya was “full of joy.”

    “Every day was special with Shaniya,” he said. “Once she was your friend, she was your friend for life.”

    Staff writer Drew Brooks contributed to this report.

  7. November 18, 2009 10:50 pm

    “They did the best job they can do,” he said. “I thank you so much for not forgetting about Shaniya and bringing her home. It’s not the result I wanted. It’s not the result any father or family would want for their children, but God has a greater calling for all of us.”

    hmm…

    Interesting how “god’s” will is always thrown around when women/girls are raped and killed isnt it? guess “god” wants his sons to rape and kill us.

    gag

    • November 18, 2009 11:40 pm

      I’m glad you quoted that piece soulsistasoulja, because it caught my attention yesterday. “It’s not the result any father or family would want for their children, but God has a greater calling for all of us.” See how “mothers” is omitted, as if to say, “mothers” (women) want this type of stuff to happen to children. One woman equals all women, but one man only equals that individual man, even though, it is the class-male who reap the most havoc onto the world.

      Nothing is the fault of men. It is either God’s will (as you have pointed out) or women’s wish, but never the desire of men.

  8. November 19, 2009 12:22 am

    Kitty good friggin point! I was saying that with friends, but failed to post it here.

    I’m so tired of “god” being the answer for everything. Guess he can forgive the depraved FUCK who raped and killed his baby girl too because sky daddy would want him to. you think that he would forgive her though?

  9. November 19, 2009 6:25 pm

    Kitty what’s the link to the story exposing daddy dearest as a liar? The article you posted about him knowing there was danger?

    • November 19, 2009 6:56 pm

      Slain child’s dad says he blames himself

      The grandparents of his first set of children (whose mother was murdered) ain’t trying to act like he is a saint. It sounds like they have kept his children (since their daughter’s death) more than he has, and the grandmother of his first set of children says he knew she would have kept Shaniya if he had asked. He probably didn’t like admitting that others were/are involved with raising his children.

  10. November 20, 2009 6:03 pm

    McNeill charged with rape, murder in 5-year-old’s death

    Police are saying the man, McNeill who took Shaniya is also the man who raped and murdered her. I guess we know now why he was so eager to admit to kidnapping charges. I was waiting to hear something about a possible judge angle. Supposedly, McNiell’s probation was ended early by a judge for no apparent reason. My mind was racing to the possibility that McNeill took Shaniya for the judge’s use. I really want to pop McNeill in the mouth and get rid of that smirk of his.

  11. November 21, 2009 5:28 pm

    Let’s see, the white father and his white sister have been on Oprah and the child is not buried yet. The father at a new conference said “Shaniya once ran into my BMW when she was trying to learn how to ride her bicycle,” instead of saying, “I remember once when Shaniya was trying to learn to ride a bicycle, she ran into my car.” Not only is he trying to separate himself from the mother with his one night stand business, he desperately wants to show the world that he ain’t no “wigger!”

    Also, it should go without saying, but I’m saying it. If this girl’s parents were both black, neither would have been invited to go on Oprah, and certainly not before the child was buried.

    And please talk to me if you saw the interview Nancy Grace was having with this man’s oldest son (a teenager). The son was talking to Nancy Grace and then out of nowhere daddy comes from behind and puts his right arm across the boy’s chest. The boy did all he could not to roll his eyes. It was a very dominating pose vs. an embracing “I am there for you” type move.

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