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April 28, 2010

Patriarchy has an uncanny ability to absorb subversion and repurpose it to underline patriarchal power. Therefore, anyone desiring to subvert patriarchy must not only be committed but diligent in not contributing to the reinforcement of patriarchy.

Although most females cannot achieve a space in everyday life free from males, the internet, to a certain extent, can provide that space. Of course, we cannot hold nor have genital checks on the internet and there is no doubt that a male may slip by/through occasionally. However, it will not last long, because written communication is often more revealing than appearances. Words can betray. Someone conditioned from birth will feel the right words and others conditioned from birth will use the wrong words.

Once a male is allowed in, the space is compromised, —penetrated, thus, the subversion has been repurposed to reinforce patriarchy. He is entering with the support of the world behind him. He is entering with the support of most if not all mainstream feminist blogs behind him. He is entering as the oppressor demanding your attention and commandeering the purpose. The admission is all that is necessary. It does not matter if twenty females agree that the male was argued down or proven wrong or made to look like an idiot, the Truth is, he managed to break through the attempted subversion. Patriarchy won, subversion lost.

The only strategy, there is absolutely no other, is to keep him out. Out. Out. Keeping him out is the subversion. If he is not kept out, your efforts will simply be repurposed. Don’t believe me? Look around and read closely what most feminist blogs talk about daily.

9 Comments
  1. pseudoadrienne permalink
    April 28, 2010 10:05 am

    Mainstream “feminist” blogs have become more invested in being a part of the white liberal zeitgeist, rather than being safe spaces for separatist women. As much as these “feminist” bloggers criticize white male liberals for their privileges and sense of entitlement, they know that without male commenters they won’t achieve popularity. So they de-radicalized their rhetoric, commercialized their blogs, allowed the boyz to control the discourse on their blogs, and assumed a more hetero, male identification.

    I hate to be cliche but it’s selling out and ceding to the patriarchy, because they’re so afraid of being called “man-haters”, “d*kes”, or accused of “creating an echo chamber” (see, they have completely bought into the idea that male participation equals legitimization of a cause and the so called “validity” of the male constructed form of debate). They place far too much value on male input– even if it’s misogynistic, racist, or lesbophobic– than that of women who have had enough of men’s bullshit and want to have a place that’s not contaminated by the patriarchy. But the “feminists” will tut-tut her for being “sexist” against men. Yeah….

  2. Level Best permalink
    April 28, 2010 12:54 pm

    These are wise words, Kitty. With the world and circumstances set up as they are (by men, of course!), the only place I can be a separatist is on the internet, in the company of radical feminist women. Muddying those waters with male-appeasing and the omnipresent male voice takes that away from all of us who are trying to find some way and some place we can have some degree of intellectual liberation and evaluate our experiences and plan strategies among ourselves.

  3. Mary Sunshine permalink
    April 28, 2010 2:32 pm

    But separatists who are looking for us will find us. 😀

    !!! Kitty !!! An inspiring post. Thanks for {{{ you }}}.

  4. April 29, 2010 3:51 am

    Don’t believe me? Look around and read closely what most feminist blogs talk about daily.

    Oh, yes. The vast, vast majority of them are devoting time to explaining to males, “debating” with males, “learning” from males (HAR HAR!), trawling the dredges of the sex in order to cull a few “good” ones to stand out as examples to the rest of them. It’s really ridiculous.

    But, yeah, at least they’re not “man-haters.” It makes me wonder anew how the hell it’s really possible to love women WITHOUT hating the folks who systematically and continuously oppress and terrorize us.

  5. joankelly6000 permalink
    April 29, 2010 2:25 pm

    “It makes me wonder anew how the hell it’s really possible to love women WITHOUT hating the folks who systematically and continuously oppress and terrorize us.”

    Me too.

    What I hear/read is women saying that it’s hate itself that is destructive – the reason misogyny is bad and women’s oppression is horrible is because hate is evil and hate is what causes it, so hate is what needs to go. And you can’t disappear hate off the face of the earth if you’re “indulging” in it yourself.

    Which used to make sense to me. And because I do feel like the opposite of hate is sometimes the source of things I would never have thought possible (including, sometimes, furthering justice rather than capitulating to injustice), I don’t think that technically people are wrong to go “hey it’s HATE that’s the problem!”

    But as technicalities are not out in the world getting between female people’s bodies and the males who harm them/us, to me – as far as liberation goes – hate/don’t-hate is beside the point.

    It is not my potential indulgence in hating male people that causes any of the harm that males are perpetrating this very moment. Nor did my love for any males or males in general, as part of overall humanity, ever stop or lessen or even stall for a moment the harm that males perpetrate at any given moment.

    So what I wish people would understand is – I am practically, not philosophically, interested in the liberation of female people from male domination. And practically speaking, I don’t understand how I’m supposed to believe simultaneously that it is hatred, not male people, that is the problem, while also believing that “men hate women” is a gross and inaccurate generalization of the people who are physically doing the harm. Supposedly not all the men who harm are men who hate, or who are doing it from a place of hate.

    Hate’s the problem. But they don’t all hate us. ?

    And yeah, to me, still, hate is not the solution to white male supremacy.

    It is merely a rational emotional response on the part of the class of people most harmed by it, and on the part of anyone who loves them/us.

    • April 30, 2010 12:18 am

      Oh, I wasn’t saying hate was a solution. As an emotion, it can’t be any more problem-solving than happiness or love.

      Now, THAT’S something I wish folks would get. If hate’s not going to solve problems, love damn sure isn’t either.

      Like Mary says below, separatism is what will solve the problem of female oppression.

    • joankelly6000 permalink
      April 30, 2010 12:31 am

      agree with Mary and you about separatism.

      and I didn’t mean it to sound like I thought you were saying hate is a problem-solver, though I am still glad that my unclear comment elicited this gem anyway:

      “Now, THAT’S something I wish folks would get. If hate’s not going to solve problems, love damn sure isn’t either.” 🙂

      I feel like the mere suggestion of any female person hating those who harm us gets treated as if it’s got the power behind it of ten nuclear warheads – as if we DO say it is the solution, as if it is an action, rather than an emotion, and a rational one at that. I meant to make it clear that – like most anyone who ever does talk about hating men (as a subject or as a feeling she is having herself) – I don’t consider it a solution to males’ hatred. I just don’t consider it the bugaboo that liberal feminists seem to. So it’d be nice if people stopped characterizing such talk about hating males as anything other than what it is.

  6. Mary Sunshine permalink
    April 29, 2010 4:31 pm

    So what I wish people would understand is – I am practically, not philosophically, interested in the liberation of female people from male domination.

    YESSS !!!!!!!!!!

    😀

    Which is one of the best reasons for working for separatism.

  7. Level Best permalink
    April 30, 2010 1:51 pm

    “I feel like the mere suggestion of any female person hating those who harm us gets treated as if it’s got the power behind it of ten nuclear warheads”–joan

    Yes–what is this with the overreaction and fear? Is this some sort of atavistic terror of intrinsic female power? If females have any psychic power that could really detonate our enemies, I hope it’s harnessed in our lifetimes, haha!

    Actually, it’s probably the terror of bullies who fear payback in kind. No, we don’t want to sully ourselves with revenge, we just want to be left alone and unharmed, thanks.

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