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The Un-Widow and the Ex-Wife

July 24, 2010

Females interested in having relationships with males need to take heed to the following story. Or if you are interested in seeing how the neo-liberals (white people who have learned how to sound like they are not supporting oppression but continue to support oppression) have high-jacked oppression rhetoric in order to justify white males doing whatever the hell they want to do. Since Justin/Nikki Purdue and his enablers are hell bent on spreading his side of the story, let me tell you about the true victims in this case. Politically, the real victims in this spectacle are females at birth who desire a halfway decent relationship with males, more specifically, a female of color.

Manipulating and calculating mentally ill males who set themselves up as women will use their positions to make life of any female in association with their love interest a living hell. Yes, these males are mentally ill. The desire to mutilate your body is a mental illness. In reality, sex is a biological fact and gender is a social construct. In logical land, facts are not altered to accommodate constructs. Constructs are separated and eliminated from influencing facts. If you do not understand what I just said it is as easy as this, a male does not have to have his penis removed if he enjoys wearing dresses. A female does not have to remove her breasts to play football. Don’t go to sleep on me though, because I am here to tell you that male entitlement knows no bound, –regardless of whether these entitled males keep their penis intact or split it open and butterfly and tack it back.

Utilizing surgery to correct psychological conditions is not only savage but counterproductive to the elimination of gender roles. We no longer expect or accept a doctor performing a lobotomy when one is clinically depressed, so why is it that so many people are on board with a male mutilating his body? If a person is anti-gender, the productive approach for challenging stereotypical gender is to challenge stereotypical gender roles. Attempting to line one’s genitals with one’s external performance is not combating gender but enabling and perpetuating gender roles based on birth sex. A male with his penis intact and appearing as a person an average person would label a woman is tenfold more radical than a male who cuts off his penis with the intent of it appearing as a vulva and externalizing himself as a woman.

Justin/Nikki and his enablers would have you believe that he is a poor grieving “widow.” Nothing can be further from the truth. The night Thomas Araguz died in a fire at the Maxim egg farm; Justin/Nikki Purdue was on his way to California. When he heard about the accident, he literally had to turn around and return to Wharton, Texas. Justin/Nikki was on his way to California because his relationship with Thomas had been severed. The gig was up for Justin/Nikki and he had no further reason to hang out in Wharton. His bid for mayor was a bust, his magazine in which he attempted to teach female at birth women how to live like genteel ladies was awash, his fraudulent marriage was discovered, and the man he is currently boohooing over the airwaves as the “love of his life” had informed him of an intended legal dissolution of their farce of a union. (Whether Thomas knew about Justin/Nikki’s male at birth status or not, Thomas chose his blood family over continuing a relationship with Nikki.)

When Justin/Nikki arrived back in Wharton, he had no home to store his synthetic hormone filled pill bottles and impending un-widow’s weeds. The generous people at Maxim egg farm put Justin up at the Holiday Inn. In a television interview, Justin claims to have an apartment lease beginning in June. Why would Nikki have to stay at the Holiday Inn if he and Thomas were living together and had a lease that started a month earlier? The court order not to remove any community property was not filed until July 12, 2010. So, why didn’t Justin/Nikki stay at their so called home from July 5, 2010 to July 12, 2010 instead of staying at the Holiday Inn?

Nevertheless, the victims in this horrendous nightmare that Justin/Nikki has created have been and still are Thomas’ ex-wife, Heather Delgado and her two children. Heather Delgado loved Thomas since middle school. From there she grew into a somewhat shy and docile woman. Heather expected her marriage to Thomas to last forever. They had two children. Thomas had ambitions and Heather was happy to stay home, take care of the house and care for the children. Thomas was known to be domineering, sometimes to the point of being unbearable. Yet, Heather was dutiful. He also had a particular appetite that Heather was not willing to satisfy. Instead of compromising, Thomas wandered. None of this negates the fact that Thomas died heroically however. Not all (actually none) of our courageous heroes in this world are pure as the driven snow.

While still married to Heather, Thomas started an affair with Justin/Nikki. Justin/Nikki knew Thomas was married and did not care. It was like some twisted validation for Justin/Nikki. If he could steal a man from a real woman then in his mind the act validated his womanhood (a construct). This is just another example of how female at birth women are sacrificed for the ego of delusional males. In addition, these men are protected from misogyny in the name of “just trying to find someone to love.” If it had been a female at birth woman who had stolen Thomas from Heather, she would have been called a home wrecker and a whore. Not to mention that ridiculous white wedding dress with full face veil that Justin wore. LMAO! The misogynistic virgin patrol would have raked a female at birth over the coals for that exhibition. But Justin/Nikki’s trannie-ism protects him from such misogyny. Just like Justin/Nikki is not being labeled a gold digger. If a female at birth woman had pushed a man into high-risk occupations (Justin/Nikki claims to have sent Thomas to the police and fire academy and EMT school. ETA: A refuted assertion. Looks like Justin/Nikki wants to appear that he was an encouraging bread winner so his gold digging won’t be so obvious. He may had pushed, but not paid. In other words he is claiming credit for what taxpayers provided.) the immediate public perception would be that she is a calculating gold digger relying on her husband being killed in the line of duty. Yet, because a poor pitiful delusional white male is “looking for love”, he is exempted from such vitriolic and misogynistic labels and suspicions.

It was not enough for Justin/Nikki to seduce Thomas away from Heather. He had to taunt Heather. He went out of his way to remind Heather of what he took. After one such taunting, mysteriously, Heather’s truck’s fuel tank was filled with bleach. It cost her over $800 in repairs. And if that was not enough, Justin/Nikki with Thomas used Heather’s new found poverty to take away her children. Yes, that’s right. With no viable skills, Heather was unable to support herself and the children after their divorce. It was less than a month between Thomas and Heather’s divorce and Justin/Nikki and Thomas’ fraudulent union. Instead of providing child support, Justin/Nikki decided it was better for him and Thomas to have custody of the children. Since they appeared as a heterosexual two parent home and Heather was only one, and since they had two incomes (or the ability for two incomes) and Heather had none, they presented the case that they were better fit to care for the children than Heather. They manipulated the heterosexist court system by pretending to be a heterosexual couple seeking custody. They used their perceived heterosexuality to steamroll over a female at birth. There was no neglect or abuse on Heather’s part, none. Yet, that is how little this male thought about this female who had these children and had taken care of them and loved them their whole lives.

Justin/Nikki tried to commandeer all aspects of Heather’s children’s lives, including their medical and educational direction. In addition, it lasted for a year. Heather was torn apart from her children and taunted and tormented for over a year. It was not until Heather earned enough money by having numerous plate lunch sells and bake sells to get the money to fight for her children. She didn’t rely on thievery and deception, she utilized perseverance and true love for her children. Unlike how Thomas and Justin/Nikki only wanted custody to avoid paying child support and to have total control over two children.

In cases such as this one, patterns are most telling. Nikki/Justin has a history of entangling himself with previously perceived as heterosexual Latino men, with children. One has to wonder what could possibly be the motive for the type of men he targets. A fetish? A strategic manipulation based on cultural expectations? I’m sure Mr. Mata, Justin’s first “ex-” could tell us a story or two.

Justin/Nikki’s history exposes quite the pattern. It reveals someone who could very well push a man into a high-risk profession in order to collect death benefits. Last week Nikki was specifically ordered by Judge Clapp not to spend any money he received from Thomas’ death until all the legal questions were answered and judgments were made. However, Nikki does what Nikki wants to do and when he received a check for $60,000 Thursday, July 22, 2010 he immediately spent almost $2000 and would have plowed through more of it if court had not been in session at 9:00 am Friday, July 23, 2010. Why the judge did not charge Nikki with contempt is anyone’s guess.

It is no wonder Thomas’ mother and ex-wife are concern about Justin/Nikki getting his hands on any money. Justin/Nikki has a history of stealing. Right out of high school in 1992, he was given probation for theft. In 1994, when he should have been deciding what he was going to do with his life, Justin garner another year of probation for theft. More of Justin thieving in 1995 earned him 20 days in jail. If anyone thought jail rehabilitated Mr. Purdue, he or she would be wrong. Five years later in 2000 he was booked for theft and, not for the last time either. Nikki’s itchy and envious fingers got the best of him in 2002 landing him in the stony lonesome for 30 days. After a decade of stealing and thieving, it is conceivable to conclude that Justin Purdue would have no qualms trying to take what does not rightfully belong to him. Justin/Nikki Purdue is a serial thief. Throw in a few failures to produce identification/driver’s license, a cocaine possession in 2007 and driving under the influence and the early making of an authentic degenerate is revealed.

But we are to excuse all of that because, he is just looking for love. Well who isn’t? If a person has to lie to get love, then perhaps that person needs to reexamine his or her life. Love built on lies is lies.

During a custody hearing a few months prior to Thomas’ premature death, he was presented evidence that Justin/Nikki was born a male. Yes, a male. Let’s not pretend that we don’t understand or have never heard of the barbaric practices of the medical profession for the last hundred years. Any story about Nikki/Justin genitals being insufficiently male, thus calling his sex into question is a lie. You know why? If Justin/Nikki’s genitals were insufficiently identifiable as male at the time of his birth in 1975, the doctors would have reconstructed the genitals immediately and requested the family to gender Justin as a girl. If the doctors had even bother telling the parents anything but they had a girl. Gender is based on performance. Parents, society (for the most part) and caregivers generally condition a child to perform one gender or the other, mostly likely in accordance with biological sex. However, if a male baby boy is told that he is a girl, dressed in pink and dolls shoved on him, he will most likely grow up believing he is a girl. Traditionally in cases of blotched deliveries (in which the penis is irreparably damaged), and/or birth deformities and ambiguities, doctors have erred on the side of girl, not boy. The fact that the doctors did not do this with Justin/Nikki warrants a reasonable doubt when considering Nikki’s birth tale of being biologically ambiguous. Of course there will be scores of trannie-agenda driven doctors willing to rewrite the facts. They have to in order to avoid being expose for treating mental illnesses with surgery.

None of that matters though. During the last custody hearing in which Heather gained back custody of her children, both Thomas and Justin/Nikki swore under oath that Thomas was not aware of Justin/Nikki’s birth sex. That is why any arguments about Thomas knowing or not knowing are irrelevant. There are signed documents by the both of them claiming he did not know anything. Justin also admitted in an interview that he did not have surgery (not that surgery can change one’s sex) until after the illegal wedding. Moreover, to say otherwise now, is to demonstrate how Justin/Nikki is willing to lie to guide an outcome in his favor. Nevertheless, the single argument about Thomas knowing or not knowing does not matter because the great state of Texas does not recognize same sex marriage. Regardless of how insensitive or anti-homosexual this law is, it is currently the law. Citing this case as an example of homophobia is ridiculous. The point is, the fraud. It is not as if Nikki and Thomas were living as homosexuals, they were clearly trying to pass as a heterosexual couple. Promoting heterosexuality reinforces anti-homosexuality by outwardly aligning oneself with the status quo; it does nothing for the plight of same sex marriage or the acceptance of homosexuality. When discovered, it just makes people feel deceived. No one likes being duped.

By all means, spare me the neo-liberal claptrap focusing on how my opinion is denying this white male his personhood or how I am obligated to put his white entitled delusions above the concerns of a female of color who was treated as disposable trash.

Now it is being reported that Justin was on Jerry Springer. How low can you go? Anything for attention. I think all of these trannies are suffering from malingering. It is a mental illness. Attention. Secondary gain. Attention. Secondary gain. Attention and secondary gain are all they want. They don’t want love, they want people to indulge them. If it was just one kiss with a stranger, why drag that stranger in front of the whole world? The attention and the $500, that’s why.

  1. July 24, 2010 5:24 am

    Well, I personally think that the firefighter knew that Justin was a man. I think he just didn’t want anyone else to know that he was into men.

    Aside from that, though, the taunting and the vandalism are just outrageous. The man already had the woman’s children and husband. I can’t understand why he felt a need to continue to harass her.

    I’m also tired of the way trannies want everyone’s approval to lie to others. They don’t want actual acceptance for the most part, which would entail being acknowledged as males who want to cross-dress and/or chop off their penises. They want everyone to indulge them in their lies and delusions. Frankly, I don’t even think that marriage should have been valid even if same-sex marriage were rightfully made legal. Justin lied about his sex, and legality of same-sex marriage aside, fraud is an entirely different matter.

    • July 24, 2010 5:34 am

      If he knew or didn’t know, I don’t think it matters, other than giving the family a singular course to follow. A course I would ideologically reject to on the grounds of invoking heteronormative privilege if this were a case of two homosexual males wanting to be married in peace. However, it is not. It is a male attempting to convince the world that he is a female and making up lies along the way. Him and his posse grab at any condition or disease they can grasp in order to confuse a mental condition into a supposedly biological one.

      And to be so petty as to fight over the man’s badge and gun. Also, he is crying about needing to eat, thus the explanation for violating a court order. You know damn well the trannie community is cosseting and providing for him.

  2. July 24, 2010 10:47 pm

    I agree that he knew abut the trannyism. Of course married gay dudes are going to love these guys – they get to be gay and pretend they are not being gay at the same time! How conveniently unchallenging.

    • July 24, 2010 11:04 pm

      Yes, they were real role models for gay rights./eye rolls.

      What I don’t get, is how no one cares to talk about the unbridled misogyny these two men inflicted on the ex-wife. Pure unadulterated hatred for a female. But the un-widow who was on his way out of town because he had no more chips remaining, is the victim here. He is a fraud.

  3. July 25, 2010 12:26 am

    Yes, the fact that these two were able to legally take her natural children away is beyond fucked up.

    • July 25, 2010 12:45 am

      I know right. Nothing is like expecting a woman to be submissive to patriarchy and then punish the product of that submission. Men have utilized poverty against women for many many years. But the trannie was just looking for love, right! Funny how this white male is getting double privilege here. Neo-liberals choose the white woman (if you are willing to accept him as a woman) over what he did to a Latino woman. When if you ask me, this white male preyed on Latino men.

  4. July 25, 2010 1:50 am

    Well, I don’t know if I’d say he preyed on hispanic men. What I would say, though, considering the obsession with taking that woman’s children away from her, is that he preyed on those kids. I have never met a man so eager to get unrelated children in his guardianship that wasn’t also molesting or outright raping those children.

    A cousin of mine met a man a few years ago who was always offering to babysit her two male children. She was so excited to have some help, but I was always suspicious. Turns out he was playing with the boys’ penises during bath time. Her oldest told her after she’d already broken up with him, and he’d moved out of town.

    • July 25, 2010 2:00 am

      Yeah perhaps prey on the men is not the right concept. He was doing something is all I know. And he is white, thus, the children and the ex-wives in the known cases were Latino.

      I wish the homosexual community would divorce themselves from these mentally ill heterosexual men. Because I can just see the accusation now, asserting that this tranny is possibly a pedophile will be constructed to mean that you are saying homosexuality is synonymous with pedophilia. When it is absolutely not the case.

    • July 25, 2010 9:02 am

      I always wonder, when I hear about men vigorously and viciously pursuing custody of children, whether it is because they want access so that they can molest them. Just the fact that they are pursuing access makes me suspicious. They either want to hurt the woman, or to hurt the children, surely? Because most men don’t actually give a shit about their kids and are more than happy to palm them off on the mother.

    • July 26, 2010 12:36 am

      Yes no doubt. I think Margie is on to something when she infers a motive associated with the desire to have custody of the children.

  5. July 25, 2010 5:21 am

    I just watched a video where that mentally ill Justin Purdue said he became a woman once he became a sex object for men. Yes, that is how trannies define woman.

  6. July 25, 2010 6:04 pm

    Yeah, gross these guys fighting for custody in the first place, and gross these judges actually giving them access, especially unsupervised.

  7. atheistwoman permalink
    July 25, 2010 11:59 pm

    That the woman wasn’t allowed to keep her children but had them taken away and given to that mentally ill white man who wanted to play house says it all.

    “If a person is anti-gender, the productive approach for challenging stereotypical gender is to challenge stereotypical gender roles. Attempting to line one’s genitals with one’s external performance is not combating gender but enabling and perpetuating gender roles based on birth sex. A male with his penis intact and appearing as a person an average person would label a woman is tenfold more radical than a male who cuts off his penis with the intent of it appearing as a vulva and externalizing himself as a woman.”

    True…but perhaps incorrectly it still reeks of privilege to me, on top of the delusion that such things could be “fabulous” or even borderline attractive. IMO, the only way a male in female drag could be revolutionary or “transgressive” is if he is doing it because he is trying to show how absurd and ugly such things really are.

    Of course, it depends what is meant as drag–some view ‘metrosexualism’ as drag, and that I support wholeheartedly in terms of stench reduction ;-). Perhaps that should be a new campaign, hire Judith Butler or some such person to write that men who practice basic hygiene and diet are transgressing bourgeois norms.

    Also, not that you were saying otherwise, or not sure you were saying otherwise, but I always understand gender as something completely made up and imposed from the outside. People have personality characteristics that either do or not go in line with how society says they should act and be according to their sex (feminine or masculine depending on place, time, and person) but I perceive that as random personality, not “innate gender” or even “gender.” Not sure if I am even in the ballpark though….

    • July 26, 2010 12:35 am

      I was trying to keep it simple because I know many people who are reading the papers are reading here and based on their comments they are so far from even understanding that sex is separate from gender that I probably am guilty of oversimplifying. You are right, feminine and masculine labels (and signifiers) do enable gender. If we did not gender a personality characteristic we would have fewer problems. I am using we, as general society. What I mean when I say radical is radical to people who adhere to strict gender roles. The larger part of society does do just that. Therefore, if they were to accept a biological male in a dress it would be a radical acceptance for them. Unfortunately, it seems that females will have to wait a long time and suffer through a lot while the general population stumbles in every direction before they learn that something is sexist. Since my summer trip and getting back in touch with people who are never expose to the things we talk about here, I am renewed with the concept of how many blanks must be filled in before we can even start discussing such topics.

    • atheistwoman permalink
      July 26, 2010 12:57 am


    • July 29, 2010 10:46 pm

      No-o-ow I see what you were talking about the other day! What I said about “throwing it out there” vs “filling in the blanks first” still stands, but – SHIT!!! – I’m glad you chose the latter in this case! I was following you, but there was a deeper understanding that I just wrapped my brain around (See, that’s why I ain’t scared! Who’d give up “the knowing” one gets from you ladies just ’cause some pissants don’t want to live in truth?? :-))

  8. July 26, 2010 6:38 am

    Males and their supporters love to invade the privacy of females who have the nerve to assert themselves.

    Question, has anyone posted the private information (e-mail, phone #) of the mommy in law and ex-wife? I have a thing or two to share with them (not a threat of violence, just a desire to tell these people what I think of them).

    by: zazu @ Fri Jul 23, 2010 at 23:16:19 PM CDT

    Why would the mother or ex-wife want to talk to some uninvited intruder?

  9. Name Removed By EKG permalink
    July 28, 2010 11:16 am

    Nikki/Justin did not put Thomas through the EMT, Police Acad or the Fire Acad. I worked as the Financial Aid Specialist at the Workforce in Wharton Texas and that is where Thomas was funded all monies for his education, books, supplies and gas cards to complete his education. Nikki/Justin did not pay a penny for none of that. It is on record at the Workforce in Wharton, Texas.

    • July 28, 2010 4:27 pm

      Thank you so much for that information. That is what I get for believing one word out of Justin/Nikki’s mouth. He specifically said in an interview that he had paid for all three schools. I am so grateful for people like you coming forward. But, please don’t get yourself in trouble. You know if a person will lie, they will try to discredit, so if you need me to change your name to anonymous, all you have to do is say so.

    • July 28, 2010 6:58 pm

      It’s hard for me to know as an outsider what is or isn’t true about this case in regards to what’s happening now (claims elsewhere that the first wife and in-laws are also trying to make a grab for Nikki’s earnings during the marriage as part of the assets, etc.) but one thing I have seen is that no one on the Nikki-side is apparently considering what the hell Nikki put Thomas’ first wife through.

      Also, surprise, Nikki is now being called intersexed by someone who loves to appropriate intersex people’s experiences for the purpose of shoring up support for folks who are quite simply trans. Carrying on as if it’s not legitimate on its own to be a trans person is not exactly the same as being on trans people’s side, by the way, and that’s setting aside the dishonest appropriation going on.

      And apparently the whole how-dare-people-take-poor-women’s-kids-from-them-just-because-they-are-poor indignation only applies if a trans woman isn’t involved in the swiping of those kids from the poor mother.

      The fact that gender-non-conforming, female-hating people are no doubt harassing and possibly threatening Nikki does not automatically make Nikki exempt from what she did to the lady who was first married to Thomas and had his kids.

    • July 28, 2010 7:17 pm

      See to me, it is just another example of males hi-jacking the defenses of feminism/feminists in order to protect males. All the defenses expected to be employed by feminist minded people (be it male or female) are deployed when the “victim” is male but often thrown to the side when the victim is female.

      The perfect example is how when we at AROOO, a black female centered blog get death and rape threats, and there is silence from the “feminist” community at large. However, let a trannie such as Mr. Harney (a male) claim with no proof whatsoever but his word, that we here at AROOO harassed him (or people who supposedly comment here, although no such people hang out here) and all the “feminist” blogs run to his aid and cry about how horrible it is and slander our name. In other words, neo-liberals always ALWAYS fall on the side of white and male. It is misogyny pure and simple, racist misogyny to boot.

      Of course I shouldn’t mention him because he is just a professional malingerer (people who want attention and secondary gain), but the Truth is the Truth. So-called female feminists just cannot get enough of putting their heads up males asses and this latest round of slander is another example.

    • joankelly6000 permalink
      July 28, 2010 11:24 pm

      Agreed about most feminists being white- and male-identified first and foremost. And about the absolute fabrication of AROOO’s involvement in whatever the fuck went on or didn’t go on at QT.

      Interesting how none of the supposed threats were actually published on QT or at helen’s place. I’m sure it had nothing at all to do with the fact that if the actual words being labeled “threats” were published, people might be able to decide for themselves who the real trolls were in this case.

      Also hilarious was that once the jig was up in regards to the “butterfly wings blogs at AROOO or is BFF’s with AROOO at any rate!” lie, it then became “well AROOO is still responsible because butterfly wings used similar language to the hateful transphobic language of AROOO.”

      And by “hilarious” I mean “fucking jackasses aren’t fooling anyone with their jackassery, except for the other fuckers who already solidified their white and male allegiances anyway.”

  10. July 29, 2010 12:08 am

    Yes, yes, yes Joan (I had to move this comment down, it was getting too narrow.)

  11. BlackSwan permalink
    August 5, 2010 12:54 am

    Great article!

    I wish all trannies would seek medical help. To mutilate one’s body is totally mental. Besides, it is extremely misogynistic. A woman, a female at birth is far more than anything a surgeon and pharmaceuticals can create.

  12. May 27, 2011 4:24 am

    Ha ha. His deception got him no where but a reality freak show full of lies and drugs and no doubt more lies and more drugs and more lies.

    He had a penis when he was “married.” Therefore, he was not married. End of story. Advocate for same sex marriage or STFU.

  13. June 7, 2011 3:39 am

    Trannyism is Crazyism. The Crazy Tranny Coalition picked a real winner to be their poster child. After taking over $60,000 that he had no right to claim just this past Fall, Justin/Nikki done went and drugged someone and stole his or her watch. The kicker is, he didn’t just take their watch he replaced it with a cheap ass watch. Goes to show, trannies think people are so stupid that they will not know the real thing when they see it. As if the Rolex owner would wake up from his/her drug induced stupor and say, “Oh, it said Rolex before I had a drink and now it says Swatch, –oh well a watch is a watch.”

  14. la redactora permalink
    June 8, 2011 7:16 pm

    “Oh, it said Rolex before I had a drink and now it says Swatch, –oh well a watch is a watch.”


  15. la redactora permalink
    June 8, 2011 7:17 pm

    Although with them, it would definitely be a counterfeit Swatch.

  16. la redactora permalink
    June 9, 2011 11:21 am

    I saw this recently and was just waiting for an excuse to use it here 😉

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