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August 13, 2010

I don’t know what I want to tell any of you but I do want everyone who hasn’t already heard to listen to Mitrice Richardson’s mother. You tell me if this was not a case of instincts. We women must listen to our instincts. If we are not in touch with them, we need to get in touch with them.

What you will hear is Mitrice’s mother before Mitrice even gets to the police station.

28 Comments
  1. FemmeForever permalink
    August 13, 2010 4:47 am

    This is such a tragic, tragic case. The mother was absolutely right about not wanting her daughter to be released into the night alone. The police apathy in this case infuriates me. They did not care about her welfare. They could have called her family if she was refusing to stay until morning. They didn’t have to leave an altered woman defenseless and alone in the night. I hope the juries in the family lawsuits award untold millions to her family. Not that money will restore a daughter’s life but it will at least mitigate in some small way the callousness of what the PD did.

  2. August 13, 2010 5:53 am

    That last call, from the cracker who kept repeating “afro hair” – I’m not sure if it was her he was talking about. I mean, it could have been, but I haven’t seen a single picture of her wearing her hair in any sort of an afro.

    In addition to the police, though, the woman at that restaurant also must have called Richardson’s mother. In the tape of her mom talking to the police, she mentioned the restaurant. Why didn’t the woman at the restaurant ask her mother to come pick her up? Why did the police need to be called in the first place? I’m positive her mother would have taken care of the bill.

    • soulsis permalink
      August 13, 2010 3:47 pm

      Remember that white folks have no idea when it comes to our hair. Her booking photo shows her hair is thick and not “done” (unlike her other photos) and dummy white guy prolly just saw a woman with unrelaxed hair and assumed afro.

      And the dummy @ the restaurant was following the protocol most whites do when they encounter a blk person and feel uneasy or threatened (whether the threat or uneasiness is real or imagined or the product of their own racism) she called the cops.

      This entire case is beyond sad… she should NEVER have been released under those conditions, especially with her mom calling to check first. Fuck the police.

  3. FemmeForever permalink
    August 13, 2010 9:49 am

    I think to “cracker” the hair she wore in the mug shot that night could have been classified an Afro “by him” whether it was a real one or not. Especially since the sweaty long walk and the damp night air would have tended to frizz her hair even more than in the photo.

    Good point about the restaurant. I was thinking they called the cops because she was altered and that’s probably what they normally do when they think someone is crazy and could get unruly. But it may also be SOP to call because of the non-payment issue. In other words they were concerned about their money and not so much about keeping a non-payer out of jail. Also didn’t they say that they found her going through someone’s car in the lot before she entered the restaurant, so that’s another criminal act in their eyes.

  4. Level Best permalink
    August 13, 2010 1:38 pm

    Those tapes were very painful to hear; the mother sounds like a loving, wonderful woman, and I’m sitting here with tears in my eyes (at work)thinking about how she must be feeling now. I wish I could put my arms around her. Is there any fund or anything set up for the family–does anyone know?

    That damned rich guy with a walking trail on his property! Him, I could smack pretty hard. He wasn’t a bit worried about the woman; he was freaked out that a young black woman was on his property. When he throws his property open as a walking trail, he of course means only for upperclass white people like him and their (purebreed, show) dogs! Send the police to remove this Afro-having person, stat! He probably would tolerate a working-class hillbilly like me on his trail, just barely, because I am luminescently white, but he’s on the phone with the police about a slight young black woman on his PUBLIC trail.

    • soulsis permalink
      August 13, 2010 4:00 pm

      I completely agree with you. A white woman would have been met with waay more kindness and compassion. He was worried about a very skinny “afro wearing” negro woman sitting too close to his house.

      It really does my mind over to know that a white MAN was afraid of a skinny black woman to the point of needing to call the cops. Maybe he suspected she had some gang banger ninja homies waiting in the trees to rob him. Fuckin idiot.

      (And this is why I took a long break from blogging and the news. Its hard enough to face this shit on my own in my everyday life as a black woman. Its even more difficult to see it happening and to experience it with my family and friends… its come to be too much to constantly see the many various ways whites shit on black women. We are the most defenseless black men for sure aren’t defending us or running to our aid…. the ways in which black women are consistently fucked over and just discarded as if we aren’t even human…. I can’t even find the words to describe how that feels and what state my mind ends up in because of it. Whatever happens to her the police are solely responsible in my book. I mean aren’t they the ones who are always using the excuse that women “bring it on ourselves” if we have been raped, murdered, or otherwise terrorized by males while under the influence?)

    • soulsis permalink
      August 13, 2010 4:06 pm

      And let me just say I don’t realy give a fuck that no men value us enough to give a shit about what happens to us. That isn’t the point, but I feel its important to keep this in mind because this is a very different thing when a black woman is involved compared to a woman “valued” by men according to patriarchy and male supremacy. Not to mention this is a hot button issue because I almost lost my youngest sister in a similar way. I’m not going to detail or discuss it, its too soon for me to be able to. But this kind of thing, black women put at risk by fucking idiots, missing black women not being important enough etc, just makes me so filled with rage and disgust.

    • joankelly6000 permalink
      August 13, 2010 7:05 pm

      {{{{{soulsis}}}}}}

    • soulsis permalink
      August 13, 2010 7:38 pm

      Hi Joan! 🙂 I received your email I just wasn’t in a place to respond.

    • joankelly6000 permalink
      August 13, 2010 11:15 pm

      I understand (not what you’re going through probably, but about sometimes not being able to respond). xoxox

  5. August 13, 2010 2:07 pm

    Agreed about the Afro thing. He kept saying it like that was reason enough to refer to her as a ‘prowler’ instead of a ‘young woman who might be lost or in trouble’.

    It was so heartbreaking to listen to her mum, especially when she started to cry. Police are fucking assholes.

  6. August 13, 2010 2:33 pm

    I haven’t listened passed her mother calling police and asking if she should come now and then trusting that they would hold her until morning. I am just stuck there, right there. The guilt that poor woman must be feeling. I know she has told herself, “Why didn’t I go the second I found out they were arresting her.”

    We layer our senses and instincts, I tell you. Or maybe, they are meant to be layered.

  7. FemmeForever permalink
    August 13, 2010 5:31 pm

    It seemed some people were unsure of the conclusion of this case.
    Here is the link to CNN

  8. Level Best permalink
    August 13, 2010 5:59 pm

    “its come to be too much to constantly see the many various ways whites shit on black women. ”

    I agree, and old naive fool that I am, I really had no idea how common extreme racism is in America until a black man was elected president. My eyes have been opened by how out in the open racism is now–I mean blatant and unashamed, check out Dr. Laura’s recent jumping on a black woman caller–and it nauseates me. And this black mother trying to protect her daughter and not being allowed to makes my heart hurt. 😦

    • soulsis permalink
      August 13, 2010 7:30 pm

      Its just sad that the only time/way anyone sees racism is when a black man is involved. Power=privilege=abuse=inequity!

      And I read abt Laura. I personally think she’s a fuckin idiot and that she espouses much of the same goobitygook ideals about race and “equality” as far too many whites… her apology is disgusting. Where have we seen this before? White woman verbally abuses black woman, her feet are held to the fire (however slightly) and she offers a completely FAKE apology and then the focus is on how black women hold a grudge and are unforgiving and unaccommodating. The issue becomes her alleged hurt feelings for being called what she is, a racist, and ppl rally around her. And mean while what of that black woman who was subjected to so much ugly? Well who cares its just another negro female “crying racism.”

      Ugh

  9. Level Best permalink
    August 13, 2010 6:03 pm

    Wow, read the CNN story. Mitrice’s father speaks the truth!

    • August 14, 2010 2:13 am

      I always assumed, from the very beginning, that they turned her into the wilderness so that one of the cops could rape and murder her. I haven’t seen anything yet that makes me think otherwise.

  10. soulsis permalink
    August 13, 2010 7:34 pm

    My first comment was so filled with incomplete thoughts… if anyone is lost on what I was trying to say let me know. I was so angry and hurt at what happened to this young woman I couldn’t think clearly. Smh

  11. August 13, 2010 10:02 pm

    I have to tell you it made me cringe when her mother tells the police officer that Mitrice is well spoken and he will see when she gets there. She knows that she has to try and “sell” “pitch” “persuade” “convince” (for lack of a better word) her daughter’s worth in order to get some type of decent treatment.

    • soulsis permalink
      August 14, 2010 5:27 pm

      That stuck out to me 2… she had to show her worth and she knew she did. Its soooo so very sad and messed up that she had to.

  12. joankelly6000 permalink
    August 13, 2010 11:13 pm

    It just gets more and more unbearable, the details of this case, of how easily preventable it all was, and knowing the agony her mom must be in because of all of what went on, it’s too much.

    • Mary Sunshine permalink
      August 14, 2010 2:49 pm

      Yes, it’s totally, heartrendingly too much.

  13. August 14, 2010 2:20 am

    What really kills me about all of this is that they keep harping on her mental state that night. It’s so fucking irrelevant. NO WOMAN should have been turned out into the darkness without her phone, ID, and transportation. End of story. If they “had no choice” but to release her, even after her mother had voiced premonitions that she would be raped and murdered, then they should have “had no choice” but to drive her to safety.

    • August 14, 2010 5:18 pm

      excellent point I hadn’t even thought of. It’s not like whatever has passed for “sanity” in my life has been a magical male-violence-repellant in and of itself.

    • soulsis permalink
      August 14, 2010 5:36 pm

      Is it just me or doesn’t it make sense to say her mental state makes the police look even worse? I mean really…

      A woman I’m really close to is leaving her abuser husband after 4 years. She is pregnant and just a week ago was arrested for punching him in the face. Why did she punch him in the face? Because he grabbed her by the throat, threw her over the back seat of HER car (right beside their 2 year old child who witnessed this entire ordeal) and started strangling her. A woman walked by, seeing him choking her, and did nothing. All of this because she was going to call the cops because he threatened her. He “couldn’t recall” choking his pregnant wife but does remember trying to restrain her because “he was afraid” of his PREGNANT wife… and the goddamn cops, when she finally got the phone back and called thm with her hand out of the window where he couldn’t reach, cuffed HER and took HER to jail because she admitted to hitting him in defense of herself and her unborn child. I’m fuckin DONE with the cops and their backers.

      Life is just too fucked up right now. Its like there is never ever going to be a break for women.

    • soulsis permalink
      August 14, 2010 5:41 pm

      Something I forgot, he pays bail and she is released at 3am unaware of where she is, pregnant, hurting and who is fucking there waitin? HIM!! Did the cops give a shit that her only way out of there was back into the arms of her abusive husband? No. Why should they? Its her problem and she’s just another black woman.

      So what else needs to happen to our sisters before someone finally gives a fuck and does something to change it? How many more black women have to suffer before it fuckin matters? How many more missing/battered/raped/abused women must there be before it matters?

    • August 15, 2010 9:03 am

      Is it just me or doesn’t it make sense to say her mental state makes the police look even worse? I mean really…

      I suppose so, although I’m not sure I really think it’s *worse* to turn a mentally unstable woman out into the wilderness than a “sane” one.

      Mostly I haven’t really heard it framed that way anyway, though. I keep hearing people try to prove that Mitrice Richardson was mentally unstable so as to provide grounds for police wrong-doing. It’s as if the police were only wrong *because* she was mentally unstable, and if it’s proved that she was perfectly in her right mind, there’s no case against the police department.

    • soulsis permalink
      August 15, 2010 1:54 pm

      I get your point, and thank you for making it. But I think that while problematic, its similar to Mitrece’s mother qualifying her daughters worth by focusing on how smart and well spoken she is. The cops were wrong to send a woman out into the night with no way to protect herself and no connection to anyone whether she be pregnant (like my friend) mentally unstable, drunk, or none of these things. But unfortunately many of us know that the reality is unless we have something to focus on or add worth to a woman, she I unimportant. And it often creeps up even when it doesn’t need to be mentioned. I know that here at AROOO I don’t have to qualify a womans worth but look at what happened in my comment…

      Sometimes its not always because of woman-hatred that people do/say things that shouldn’t matter. Sometimes its out of just knowing that she wouldn’t matter any other way. A big problem with that is it reinforces male supremacist views, sentiments etc. So yeah I hear what you’re saying, but I also understand the sentiment behind it. It doesn’t exuse ppl who otherwise wouldn’t give a fuck about what happened to her (or to my friend or any woman who is wronged/raped/murdered/abused) even though in some really fucked up way it gives those who mean it something to hide behind.

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