Sandra Rose, Abducted by Aliens?
If this were merely homophobic claptrap aimed at males, I would leave it to male homosexuals to defend themselves. However, I can see nothing but pure internalized misogyny and it feels so wretched that I must attempt something for sangfroid sake.
Sandra Rose has written a very short commentary (photo included) about two black men photographed while exhibiting a bit of tenderness on the subway (or some sort of transportation available in Atlanta, Georgia). What Sandra Rose says is so absurd that I will not be surprise if in a few days she claims aliens had abducted her, and while in captivity those aliens thought it would be a hoot to write an incredibly baffling post on her blog.
Yes, I agree there is a problem for heterosexual women when it comes to down-low men. Although I am sure a fraction of that problem is pressure from society to be heterosexual, I believe the majority of that problem is due to men wanting to do whatever they want to do, such as men wanting to live heterosexual lifestyles while secretly fucking men. Because of male entitlement, women who are conditioned and desire to partner with men do risk bearing the aftermath of whatever disease (and drama) said male brings home, be it from a heterosexual or homosexual tryst.
To begin with, I don’t understand how Sandra Rose has concluded these men are thugs. Is she judging by their matter of dress? In defense of homosexual men (and this really kills me, because homosexual men don’t exactly have a history of defending women who are wrongly labeled), it may very well be a defense mode of dress for public consumption. Or, they probably just like the clothes they are wearing. Are male homosexuals required to dress stereotypically homosexual? An aside, I always find it funny when thugs, murderers, gang members, bank robbers, etc use public transportation.
Nevertheless, the meat of her blather is the internalized misogyny.
Over the past 4 decades, black women have decided to go it alone with their kids rather than be subservient to black men like their mothers and aunts were back in the days when black men were the majority head of households.
I am not quite sure heterosexual black women have decided to go it alone with their kids as much as men have decided for them, –along with our social system which affords women and children less than little if a male is known to be present. This of course is a completely different issue than those women deciding to be subservient or not to men. A woman cannot decide to be subservient or not if he does not remain in the household. The problem with Rose’s assertion is, it implies it is a woman’s fault when a male abandons and/or refuses responsibility.
Next Rose blames women for the blurring of male heterosexual and homosexual markers/signifiers.
It’s become nearly impossible to distinguish heterosexual men from down low thugs due to the proliferation of female-led households in the black community.
What does a female-led household have to do with a male telling someone upfront he is gay or not?
And finally this gem:
As more and more black women switch roles and responsibilities with men, more and more fatherless men are turning to other men for the strength and guidance they are missing in their lives.
Rose seems to blame anything and everything she considers unfavorable on women, particularly single women with children. How fucked up is this patriarchal world when a woman hates other women just as much as some men? Actually, I think at the root of all homophobia is misogyny.