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August 20, 2010

  1. August 20, 2010 2:46 pm

    I want some land, maybe an acre or so covered with snowdrops –around trees.

  2. August 20, 2010 3:03 pm

    For about the last ten days I’ve had so much body pain. Mostly in my back, shoulders, and neck. Yesterday the shoulder pain felt like stress but I couldn’t think of what I could be stressing over. I did do some reps with some light weights the day before, but come on, it was about 50 movements max. My daughter thinks it is funny (how wonderful to have a young body) because when I walk the dog, I am bed ridden. When I lift weights, I am bed ridden. When I use that rubber band stretch thingy (which is what I think made my back hurt), I am bed ridden. Okay, bed ridden is an exaggeration, but, what does go together is how the slightest bit of motion causes me to complain. Gawd, I am so lazy and wimpy. If I can get me a free $250 I’m going to join the gym. I have to pay in cash because I don’t want those bastards to have access to my bank card.

  3. Mary Sunshine permalink
    August 20, 2010 3:42 pm

    Because I don’t drive, I end up walking a lot. When I wake up with body pain, I often notice that walking (wherever it is that I have to go) has eased the pain by the time I get home.

  4. August 20, 2010 4:59 pm

    Do you stretch before and after? I never had to in my twenties, but now I find it makes a big difference.

    • Pseudoadrienne permalink
      August 20, 2010 5:20 pm

      Stretching definitely helps with muscular pains and aches. The muscles under my right scapula nearly kill me when I wake up (I don’t know why the pain is confined to that area). A couple of stretches usually alleviates the pain.

    • August 20, 2010 7:13 pm

      I will have to remember to stretch. Thanks for the advice, all of you.

  5. August 20, 2010 6:47 pm

    We got a comment from a man the other day who said, “Now, I am not willing to call you a bitch,” after twelve paragraphs of telling us how we are doing it all wrong.


    • August 20, 2010 7:22 pm

      Ha! Like we’re just begging to be called bitches! ‘Cause that’s what we really like, and all this feminism stuff is just to fill our time until some pornsick arsehole looks our way.

    • Pseudoadrienne permalink
      August 20, 2010 7:51 pm

      Well of course he tossed the word b*tch around and said this forum’s feminist/separatist philosophy is all wrong. No feminist thought is acceptable unless it’s received the dickslap of approval. 😉

    • joankelly6000 permalink
      August 20, 2010 10:14 pm

      I love it – “the dickslap of approval.”

    • Soulsis permalink
      August 21, 2010 9:29 pm

      HA! Dickslap? omfg my sides…

    • joankelly6000 permalink
      August 20, 2010 10:05 pm

      or it sounds like he might also have meant “so where’s my congratulations for not calling you a bitch when it’s clear you all are bitches?”

  6. August 20, 2010 8:09 pm

    We have to stay in a hotel next week for two nights because the house is being tented for termites. It is not that serious but I am beginning to stress about it. I mean what is the big deal? I do hate that my daughter’s middle school orientation is the day that I have to come back and get the gas turned back on and deal with the aftermath of the house being gassed, or whatever it is that they do. Middle school. The only thing I told her about middle school is how nasty little boys in crowded hallways will try to touch girls’ breast and butt and then pretend like they were looking in their lockers.

    • atheistwoman permalink
      August 20, 2010 10:11 pm

      Middle School, bleh. You triggered me. ;-). So much embarrassment and sexual harassment and fear, so little time.

      I’m sorry your daughter has to go through that, and that you have to go through that with her.

    • August 20, 2010 11:11 pm

      Ha ha, that’s funny. Actually, I was thinking about a posteriori triggering applied to shadowily memories. I might write a post about what story I remembered when I was thinking about that.

    • joankelly6000 permalink
      August 20, 2010 10:14 pm

      oh lordy. I will keep a good thought for your daughter. I have often thought – if I ever was told – “you have to go back to middle school; you will get to zip right back to your life as it is now after those three years, but you have to go through it again” [for some bizarre devil-took-over-the-world reason] – I would just fucking kill myself. Even knowing I could come back. I will keep a good thought for your daughter.

      But also please note, a huge percentage of what was horrible was home-life related. Your daughter has you, whereas I, obviously, did not. I mean school and boys were no picnic, nor were some girls, but if someone would say to me “you have to go back to middle school then back to your good life now but you get Kitty as your mom this time,” I would give it some serious thought.

    • atheistwoman permalink
      August 20, 2010 10:16 pm


    • atheistwoman permalink
      August 20, 2010 10:17 pm

      Or is that only if you say the same thing at the same time.

    • atheistwoman permalink
      August 20, 2010 10:27 pm

      I dunno Joan, middle school isn’t what it used to be, if it ever was (or maybe only for certain protected groups–aka wealthy white women). Middle school boys have porn now, and sexxxay racist music videos and R films (well they always had R films but you know). That’s like adding stuff to that stew of hormonal entitlement that really shouldn’t be there. And there are the high school boys to contend with (worse) and the perv teachers (much worse).

    • atheistwoman permalink
      August 20, 2010 10:31 pm

      Okay, so I am really sorry I obliterated your comment bar/thread. When I am on adderall I have to remind myself to not just post post post, but it’s been a while since I was on it and I forgot to remind myself to remind myself ;-). I would have no problems if you wanted to combine those, but obviously if no one wants to do that it is cool too.

    • August 22, 2010 7:36 am

      This is my Australian-ness showing through, but what on earth is middle school? Is it like half way between primary (elementary, my dear) and high school? We only have the two distinctions here.

  7. August 20, 2010 11:05 pm

    Awww Joanie Roanie, I would be a good mommy to you. LOL! I’ve learned a few things about kiddies (and not just mine), by the stories I tell them (during Women’s History Month and at the library) and when, last spring, I worked with a production group (I wonder if I should try to turn a single subject credential into a multi-subject credential, that’s what tracks a teacher into high school/adult education vs. middle school and elementary) and their reactions to and questions with those stories. Kids like to know adults have their back and although they don’t like being disciplined, as in told to shut their trap, they sort of respond to it. By high school the bastards are so smug, as in knowing if they can get you in trouble or not or get themselves out of trouble by diverting the attention toward you, that it is a different story. In high school dealing with them truly comes down to an individual situation, each time. In middle school there is still an uncertainty if they are right (as in, if they can get their parents and/or principals to believe them over the adult) or if they will get in more trouble if they push. I do okay by letting them get away with little things that I think are stupid, like chewing gum, but then slamming the hammer down at other times. When we had an after production party this past spring there was a group of girls that were going out of their way to have a picture taken with me. Naturally, I felt like it was some sort of inside joke because all I ever did with that group of girls was to talk shit about their behavior, to their face not to other adults. I will be glad when the day comes that I don’t even care what their motive is, and instead, just take the picture with them and stick my tongue out at the last second.

    • August 23, 2010 10:21 pm

      I thought this but didn’t type it until now – I love my own mom but seriously to have had The Fabulously Mean Mutineer Queen of Power Kitty Glendower as my mother in middle school…couldn’t have gotten any better than that.

      And I know what you mean about kids – and I was that way when I was young. I didn’t enjoy getting in trouble with any teacher, but it felt safer to be with teachers who I knew were capable of getting upset at least, who had boundaries. Ones who would let kids walk all over them, it just made me nauseous with discomfort. And asshole teachers – well they were the only ones I did enjoy pissing off.

  8. August 20, 2010 11:06 pm

    No combining comments today, AW. Some days it does not matter. Just like I don’t understand when people apologize for leaving long comments. It does not matter to me, not really.

    • atheistwoman permalink
      August 21, 2010 2:51 am

      Well, I was just trying to mind my manners and not be an obnoxious twit, but I suppose one can try too hard in the other direction. Ha.

  9. August 22, 2010 7:32 am

    I am so tired and hate working at a nightclub, even if it is the only job I can fit in around my studying schedule. Also, some arsehat has ruined my favourite jacket by putting it in the washing machine even though it has a huge label that says DRY CLEAN ONLY. eerrrrrrrrrrgh.

  10. Soulsis permalink
    August 26, 2010 4:23 pm

    I finally got my sister here safely! Now the only thing is, she has a 2 yo boy and I have my 2yo niece here (they’re a day apart) and he is so rough and aggressive I wanna snatch him. I’m super nervous of him playing with my niece and not to mention he hits and bites and scratches and throws things because that is what he saw his daddy do.

    I’m not looking for advice, I think I just needed to say that cause it’s making me crazy to see this shit play out right before my eyes. Male privilege and supremacy isn’t learned or taught, it’s born. I never wanted to think of it that way, but it is.

    • August 26, 2010 9:19 pm

      I wish you well. When children are involved it gets so difficult at times.

    • Soulsis permalink
      August 27, 2010 6:04 pm

      it does. Especially given the circumstances and the age of both children. it’s making me crazy, but no matter what i’m not stsanding for a male child to beat on my niece. no matter what. and it needs to be nipped in the bud NOW before he gets the idea that this is how men should treat women.

      My solution is to keep her away from him and start teaching her early how to defend herself. Its a goddamn shame, but it’s the reality for girls. I actually feel sick about this, because this is ONLY the beginning for her. Am I paranoid or using my judgment?

    • Mary Sunshine permalink
      August 27, 2010 8:02 pm

      Male privilege and supremacy isn’t learned or taught, it’s born. I never wanted to think of it that way, but it is.

      Yes, it is.

      And mothers of males are there to protect the little &*%$-ers against any and all female efforts to repel them. It’s tragic that your neice needs to hide from him to avoid assault. Thus begins her life on a male planet.

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